After being married for 7 years and going through a tough divorce finding the love of my life was the last thing I wanted to find. I’ve been loved before but was it the “love of my life”, I can’t say any of the women I loved was. I loved them all and even with a bad marriage I still though I was “loved”. Boy was I wrong, loving someone more than they love you is not good. It hurt trying to love someone who couldn’t be loved and knowing that I’m not getting what I needed. Being single for over a year was the best thing for me, I learned that I could live without having someone to love me. I tried dating for a while but think I wasn’t ready yet so I kind of put finding love on the back burner.
What changed was how I looked at dating. In the past I was in control and had a list of what I wanted in a relation with a woman. Since this way of finding a mate has not worked the greatest I though what not try a very different way. Since Jesus has come into my life and saved me, I have been blessed. Before I knew Jesus I though life was all about me and how good of a lover I was. God changed all that, I realize it’s not all about me and thinking I am so good is wrong. Since being saved I have been praying ever morning and ever night and some times I just talk to God. What I did for dating didn’t work so I thought why not let God be in control of my dating. My love for God is very strong and I am still learning so finding a mate who loves and worships God as much if not even more could be very hard to find.
I would pray at night for God to bring a lady into my life who loves you, that’s all I asked for. I would pray, “God, I don’t know who she is or where she is at, just bring her into my life. I don’t know when it will happen dear Lord but I know she is out there. Who ever she is Lord, I will accept and love her”. Like so many others, I have gotten hooked on Facebook and have been adding to my list of friends. I didn’t use facebook much before being saved but since I have been going to church I use it to stay updated with my church family. I even made a group page for my church and have made new friends both on and off facebook. Facebook is a good way to learn about what others are doing with there faith and how God is acting in there life. That got me to think that maybe I could do a search for women from Iowa who loved God. I think I searched for, Single Women, God, Iowa and 35-45 years old. The results I got most of the time was there name and maybe a picture. Out of the list I had, I picked maybe 10 or 12 names and sent them a friends request, some times I would include a little note about why I was asking to add them as a new friend. Since none of them knew me at all, I was taking a chance and just wasn’t sure if this would work for finding a new friend let alone a mate.
To be continued tomorrow….. Update, Click here to read part 2